Restraint is Hard

[stephbg]

A Bad Thing has occurred which I am not at liberty to discuss on social media. That's fine, but it's sparked off a lot of Thoughts and Feelings that I'd normally work out online. I'm finding there's a huge difference between musing online and deliberately choosing someone to talk to about difficult things. I have many friends who I'm sure would be more than willing to chat, but it seems like a terrible imposition to pick someone specific to unload on in lieu of spreading the load as widely as possible.

Yes, Bad News is all about me (it isn't), but since I can't talk about the actual Bad News, nor the direct implications of Bad News, I can only mention (in a less public way than usual on DW) how bothersome it is to not be able to talk about Bad News.

If I were someone else I'd probably recommend (a) talking to someone without feeling so damned guilty about it because that's what friends are for, and/or (b) Write about it but just don't post about it (and try not to get withdrawal because there won't be any comments).

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(Public, but not cross posted anywhere.)

Comments

[transcendancing]

*lovelovelove* this is a really hard thing to deal with. Your advice to self is really good though and if you want a phone call some time this week, I am available.

[chaosmanor]

I would listen to your advice. *nods*

Private posts, where you post about it but no one can see, are also an option.

*hugs*

[shehasathree]

Am currently also struggling with how to talk about stuff that is definitely in part My Stuff, Which i Need to Talk About, but which is also other people's stuff and which i have been trained not to talk about.

[leecetheartist]

First do (b) to do some initial musing and then do (a)

I am feeling for you and for whoever is affected.

[emma_in_dream]

Hugs.