I think Mynxii covered everything I wanted to say, so I'll just say "what she said" and then add something else.
You're not weak to accept love and support. One thing I have learned through every channel of my life (bondage, paganism, fandom, and others) is that you have to be strong to accept love and support. For some strange reason in our society it gets painted as a weakness. It's not. The urge to care and help should be encouraged in those who feel capable of doing so, and the need to be strong enough to accept help should be encouraged in *everyone*.
I need support and help. I've opened myself to it time and time again (and I'm not just talking about femmeconne,) and every time I have come out stronger and happier for it. It may be all romantic to be an Island, but I think that's a road to living too much in my own head. (Says the woman who spends all her time in books in her own head. How weird is that?)
Also, ont he listening thing? I actually started femmeconne so *I* could sit down and listen! I wanted to hear what women wanted to talk about! I know what *I* think! :-)
You're welcome to come and blob on the beanbag. You're welcome to lie in the sun the whole weekend and talk to people between panels. You're welcome to corner people and ask them difficult questions. It's what you decide you want it to be. (I might still ask you to do some dishes though, but if you do them with me I can promise some bad chris de burgh songs where I mumble through the words I don't know and sing the rest really loudly.)
PS, you don't have to stay every night, the doors aren't locked! I expect people to go home at night! We all have lives.
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Date: 2008-09-11 11:28 pm (UTC)You're not weak to accept love and support. One thing I have learned through every channel of my life (bondage, paganism, fandom, and others) is that you have to be strong to accept love and support. For some strange reason in our society it gets painted as a weakness. It's not. The urge to care and help should be encouraged in those who feel capable of doing so, and the need to be strong enough to accept help should be encouraged in *everyone*.
I need support and help. I've opened myself to it time and time again (and I'm not just talking about femmeconne,) and every time I have come out stronger and happier for it. It may be all romantic to be an Island, but I think that's a road to living too much in my own head. (Says the woman who spends all her time in books in her own head. How weird is that?)
Also, ont he listening thing? I actually started femmeconne so *I* could sit down and listen! I wanted to hear what women wanted to talk about! I know what *I* think! :-)
You're welcome to come and blob on the beanbag. You're welcome to lie in the sun the whole weekend and talk to people between panels. You're welcome to corner people and ask them difficult questions. It's what you decide you want it to be. (I might still ask you to do some dishes though, but if you do them with me I can promise some bad chris de burgh songs where I mumble through the words I don't know and sing the rest really loudly.)
PS, you don't have to stay every night, the doors aren't locked! I expect people to go home at night! We all have lives.